"Love Completes Each Other"
"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."
For soldiers, this idea that two are better than one is a building block for operations - soldiers learn to pair up as "battle buddies" right from basic training. One cooks the meal while the other does sentry, one boils the shaving water while the other boils the water for coffee. Both check on each other constantly - that each other has what they need for the day's tasks, are awake when they need to be and get medical attention when they need it. Perhaps the best example of working together is in combat when one provides covering fire while the other moves. It is an act of incredible trust and necessity that ensures someone is covering you while you are vulnerable. Soldiers work together in both mundane and exciting tasks, often in spite of differences, all to achieve common goals. There's another area of life that this approach would work really well in . . .
Here's the thing, military battle buddies come and go. They help in seasons of our lives - courses, exercises, deployments - but we have a non-work related battle buddy who is there for the whole of your life - which is your wife. And it is sad how often I have seen military personnel fail to recognize their most important battle buddy; their wife, and as such struggle through life issues that would be so much easier to deal with if they nurtured their marriage relationship. Some even start to think of their wife as the enemy! That's like deciding to attack a fellow soldier in the heat of battle - it makes no sense and does nothing for your chances of victory. So here's a thought: what if you worked on developing your marriage relationships so that your wife becomes your life-battle buddy? If you know it or not - she would be your greatest comrade - she would fight just as hard as you do. And both of you can be the victor.
Love realizes that God has put you together on purpose. And though you may wind up disagreeing with your wife's perspectives, you should still give her views respect and strong consideration. This honors God's design for your relationship and guards the oneness He intends.
Recognize that your wife is integral to your future success. Let her know today that you desire to include her in your upcoming decisions, and that you need her perspective and counsel. If you have ignored her input in the past, admit your oversight and ask her to forgive you.
And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. (Colossians 3:14)
And now I will show you the most excellent way . . . (1 Corinthians 12:31)
"If your enemy is hungry, give him food! If he is thirsty, give him something to drink! This will make him feel ashamed of himself, and God will reward you."
Why would anyone want to be an enemy of someone who treated them well? Your actions should cause your enemy to reconsider being your enemy. When you treat your enemies well, not only do you have a good chance of making them friends, but also God will reward you.
"Dear friends, never avenge yourselves. Leave that to God, for he has said that he will repay those who deserve it. [Don't take the law into your own hands.] Instead, feed your enemy if he is hungry. If he is thirsty give him something to drink and you will be "heaping coals of fire on his head." In other words, he will feel ashamed of himself for what he has done to you. Don't let evil get the upper hand, but conquer evil by doing good." (ROMANS 12:19-21)
The way to turn an enemy into a friend is to treat them in a friendly manner. This is God's plan. It should be your plan, too. Treat enemies like friends and you won't have any enemies.
Scripture For Today: Hebrews 4:12-13 ... Which aspects of God's Word seem to be penetrating your heart the most during this journey? What do you think Paul meant by "dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow?"