Day 35
"Love is Accountable"

"Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed"
(Proverbs 15:22)

Day 35 of your journey offers excellent advice in this area of marriage relationships and asks these questions: Do you have an older couple or a friend of the same gender you can turn to for good advice, for prayer support, and for regular accountability check-ups? Do you have someone in your life who shoots straight with you? Searching out someone (of the same gender) who can offer that kind of wisdom and help is vital to restoring a troubled marriage or navigating periods of stress with success. The flip side of that is to carefully avoid those who would provide bad advice - counseling you to leave your wife, pursue selfish pastimes, make bad financial choices. Those "friends" do not have your best interests at heart. Don't weigh all the "voices" bombarding you equally! Be discerning ... be careful who you listen to.

How do you pick a good mentor? You look for a person who has the kind of marriage you want. You look for a person whose heart for Christ comes first before everything else. You look for someone who doesn't live by his or her opinions but by the unchanging Word of God. And more times than not, this person will likely be delighted you asked for help. Start praying for God to send this person into your life. Then pick a time to meet and talk. Perhaps your pastor or chaplain can connect you with a person to be that mentor. Sharing your struggles with a trusted counselor/friend need not be intimidating, but rather might be just the kind of help that you need to get over a rough time. Some mentors might want to meet regularly with you for prayer, for Bible study, or for a chance to ask good questions about your actions and habits. Ultimately you are accountable to God, so a godly mentor needs to be just that person who will point you towards God and away from the lure of sin.

Foolishness would have us believe that we don't need any help, or to ignore it when it's offered. Wisdom would remind us that good counsel is available from God's Word and from those who know, love, and obey its truth. Foolishness would have us believe the lie that rules for pure living somehow don't apply to our situation or that we are somehow an exception to them. Wisdom would remind us that there are really no new temptations and that there is hope for victorious living in Jesus Christ. Proverbs 12:15 says it all: "The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man is he who listens to counsel".

Pray to find a good marriage mentor (of the same gender) - someone you trust to be honest with you and with whom you can be accountable during this time of trouble in your marriage.

But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin's deceitfulness. (Hebrews 3:13)

So then, each of us will give an account of himself to God. (Romans 14:12)

Where there is no guidance the people fall, But in abundance of counselors there is victory. (Proverbs 11:14)

He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm. (Proverbs 13:20)

"Then He touched their eyes, saying, "According to your faith let it be to you"
(MATTHEW 9:29)

God responds to faith. God blesses people who have faith. Don't you appreciate people who have faith in you? Well, God appreciates people who have faith in Him.

But His reason is not just selfish -- as ours may be. God knows His ways are right and bring blessing, while protecting people from harm. So, when we have faith in God, we will follow His instructions, and the world will be a better place. When everyone has faith in God, and follows His way of love, the world will be a perfect place.

Many people don't understand God because they think He should respond to need, instead of responding to faith. God doesn't do that because it doesn't work. Meeting human need without them having faith in God brings no lasting benefit.

Prayer: Heavenly Father, I know in times of circumstance or situations I could be lacking my faith in You. Please Father, in times of trials and tribulations keep my faith strong in You and preserve my heart to believe in your promises. In Jesus' name, Amen.

Scripture For Today: Jonah 1 ... Jonah wasn't willing to accept God's will and direction in his life so he attempted to run away from Him. Have you run from God at any point during this journey? In the remaining days, ask God to reveal any ways in which you might be trying to deny or avoid what He still desires to do in your life. Ask Him for the courage to change what needs to be changed.

God Bless - and may He keep you and your family safely under His wings. -
The Dove Alliance