"Love Believes the Best"
"Love Believes the Best"
(1 Corinthians 13:7)
Today we're going to get very specific. The lesson today are going to take you into two rooms - the "Appreciation Room" and the "Depreciation Room." If you needed a day to focus on a definite task, today is that day. It doesn't matter where you are in the world, or what you are involved in - you can do this. Let's start in the metaphor of the "Appreciation Room." That's where your thoughts go when you remember positive and encouraging things about your wife that you appreciate. In this "Room" you will find written on the walls the characteristics which attracted you to her in the first place and what you have grown to admire. Have you forgotten? Hopefully you see words like "diligent", "laughs at my jokes", "great cook", "pretty eyes". And when you spend time in this Room, thinking about these good attributes, your gratitude for your wife grows.
But down the corridor of your heart is a darker place call the "Depreciation Room". This room is lined with the weaknesses and failures of your wife ... Emotional injuries fester here, adding more scathing remarks to the walls. It's where ammunition is kept for the next big fight and bitterness is allowed to spread like a disease ... Spending time in the Depreciation Room kills marriages.
Can you picture these two rooms? Now, let love direct you into the "Appreciation Room" and stop your lingering in the "Depreciation Room". Because love is going to choose the better way, and love chooses to believe the best about your wife. It gives her the benefit of the doubt ... As much as possible, love focuses on the positive.
But what if all of the negative things written on the walls are true? Aren't the positive things written on the walls also true? Think about it - wouldn't you want your wife to remember you in positive ways? Why not do the same about her? Love would ...
Here's how love would handle the things written on the walls of the "Depreciation Room" - the same way Jesus handles them. He writes across all of those things, "COVERED IN LOVE!" He has forgiven ... and you must, too. And you must pray for your wife. So peek in the room if you must, but only to know how to pray and to cover the walls in the writing of forgiveness.
Do this also today: Take out two sheets of paper, one to write down the positive things about your wife and the other to write down the negative things. Put them away in a safe, secret place - we will return to them at a later date. But as you are writing down the positive things, choose one and write or tell your wife how much you appreciate her for that.
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy - think about such things. (Philippians 4:8)
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. (Colossians 3:13,14)
"The earth is the Lord's, and all its fullness, the world and those who dwell therein."
This life we live in is only possible when we live with the revelation that God owns it all. Because He is good and merciful and generous, He has entrusted each of us with a temporary stewardship of certain possessions and resources. Because God designs each of us with a unique purpose in mind, we are each given a corresponding stewardship consisting of everything that we need to accomplish His divine plan for our lives.
His divine power has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us by glory and virtue. (2 Peter 1:3)
Prayer: Father, I'm beginning to realize that my life is much more intricately designed than I had first anticipated. I am so thankful for Your providence, and that You have trusted me as a steward. Help me to be a faithful and righteous steward of my marriage, truths, and resources with which I have been entrusted. Lead me on this journey that You have predestined me, my wife, and family. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Scripture For Today: Matthew 17:14-21 ... Are you facing any "impossible" mountains during this journey? If so, what do those mountains represent and how does your faith enter into these seemingly impossible scenarios? What is the one step you can take up the mountain today? Be specific. Ask God for the courage to take that first step.