"Unconditional Love"

"'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' Jesus Christ; "
(Matthew 22:37-39)

Unconditional Love is a dynamic and powerful energy flowing from God that lifts us through the most difficult times. It is available at any moment by turning our attention to God and using His wonderful potential to free us from our limitations. It begins with God, then ourselves, for without self-love, we cannot know what true love can be. In loving ourselves, we allow God's Love to generate within us and then we can share it to everyone and everything around us! That which we send out, returns to us in greater measure. If you have not thought about how you feel towards yourself, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, I invite you to do so now. Begin the journey that changes everything. Begin the journey of unconditional love...

"But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone strikes you on one cheek, turn to him the other also. If someone takes your cloak, do not stop him from taking your tunic. Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you. If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' love those who love them." (Luke 6:27-32)

The verse above from Jesus speaks of Unconditional Love - meaning that you will love someone no matter what they do. This does not mean that you do not see their faults. You just continue loving them in spite of these faults.

Can you love anyone unconditionally? It would be nice to say yes. However, there may only be two cases in which a love can stay unconditionally. One case is a love that a parent has for his or her child, especially the love a mother has for her children. The other case is the love that God gives his children.

Parents can easily feel unconditional love. This love is built by the years of nurturing and caring for their children. This is especially true of the love a mother has for her children. This love begins to build from day one as her children grows inside of her body and continues to grow as she does her best to parent them. However, a father can also feel this love, sometimes just as intense.

God gives this love for his children in the same way. He loves us knowing we are humans and we make mistakes. He just hopes that we find our way towards his love and will ask forgiveness for any mistakes and sins that we make.

What about the love of a husband and wife? Can this be an unconditional love? Many have often wondered about this answer. The answer will depend on the people in question. Some wives and husbands can love their mates so intensely that it can become an unconditional love in which the other can do no wrong that can not be forgiven. This can include adultery and dishonesty. Other marriages can not severe such events and although the love has been real it can not be described as unconditional and there are limits to what can be forgiven.

Can you love your wife unconditionally? Can you forgive her for any acts that may be labeled as betrayal against you?

In an ideal world, we all could learn how to love everyone unconditionally. However, this is not an ideal world. Everyone is not our children or our parents. We certainly can not live up to standards of God. However, we can try. We can try to learn how to forgive. We can learn how to move on when people hurts us. We can certainly begin to understand the meaning of unconditional love. Understanding its meaning is the first step to learning how to acquire it.

Have you ever dreamed of the perfect friend, wife, boss, or teacher? It's only human to do so, but these "dreams" aren't necessarily based in reality. Just the same, we do expect someone to come along to live up to them. We project these expectations and desires onto other people. When they don't live up to our expectations, we withdraw our love, feeling cheated.

Unconditional love cannot be possible until we come from that place of the spirit. This happens through an understanding of oneself and feeling secure in that knowledge. It also comes from the realization that each of us is unique, individual and different. It comes from a release of the desperations, we all feel at one time or another, of looking for others to fulfill our wants and needs. (For no one but each of us can do that for ourselves.)

Unconditional love flows from God, not the normal waking ego-self. It is a transcendental quality achieved and received during meditation and other techniques of becoming self-aware. Unconditional love, in its unmanifested state, is not directed at anything. It is a state of being, a vibration within ones being, that subtly alters ones former awareness.

This new awareness allows us to view others in a new way. We can now put ourselves in the other person's shoes (so to speak) and understand how it might feel to be in that position. It also brings the awareness that when we are not exhibiting "perfect" behavior, we still wish to receive love.

This new awareness and understanding will add to your compassion for others; especially your wife. However, that doesn't mean you won't ever feel angry or frustrated at your wife or other people. If you're coming from your true self, your spirit, you will truly express what you are feeling at that moment, realizing that if you are walking on the path of truth and unconditional love, you also will be loved - no matter what. What it does mean is that you will understand your feelings of frustration/anger and understand that you still love your wife and understand that you can both grow from the experience if you are both willing to confront it.

So you may understand the meaning of "Unconditional Love" for another; read below what I write and know this same love is what you must give to your wife - no matter what:


"I love you as you are, as you seek to find your own special way to relate to the world, or the way you feel that is right for you. It is important that you are the person you want to be and not someone that I or others think you should be.

I realize that I cannot know what is best for you although perhaps sometimes I think I do. I've not been where you have been, viewing life from that angle you have, I do not know what you have chosen to learn, how you have chosen to learn it, with whom, or in what time period. I have not walked life looking through your eyes, so how can I know what you need.

I allow you to be in the world without a thought or word of judgment from me about the deeds you undertake. I see no error in the things you say and do, in this place where I am. I see that there are many ways to perceive and experience the different facets of our world. I allow without reservation the choices you make in each moment.

I make no judgment of this for if I were to deny your right to evolution, then I would deny that right to myself and all others. To those who would choose a way I cannot walk, whilst I may not choose to add my power and my energy to this way, I will never deny you the gift of love that God has bestowed within me for all creation, as I love you so I shall be loved; as I sow, so I shall reap.

I allow you the universal right of free will to walk your own path, creating steps or to sit a while if that is what is right for you. I will make no judgment of these steps, whether they are large or small, nor light or heavy or that they lead up or down, for this is just my viewpoint. I see you do nothing and might judge it to be unworthy. And yet, it may be that you bring great healing as you stand blessed by the light of God.

I cannot always see the higher picture of divine order. For it is the inalienable right of all life to choose their own evolution and with great love I acknowledge your right to determine your future. In humility I bow to the realization that the way I see is best for me does not have to mean that it is also right for you. I know that you are led as I am following the inner excitement to know your own path.

I know that the many races, religions, customs, nationalities and beliefs within our world bring us great richness and allow us the benefit of teachings of such diverseness. I know we each learn in our own unique way in order to bring that love and wisdom back to the whole. I know that if there were only one way to do something, there would need to be only one person. I will not only love you if you behave in a way I think you should, or believe in those things I believe in. I understand you are truly my brother and sister though you may have been born in a different place and believe in another God than I.

The love I feel is for all of God's world. I know that every living thing is part of God and I feel a love deep within every person, and every tree, and flower, every bird, river, ocean and for all the creatures in all the world. I live my life in loving service being the best me I can, becoming wiser in the perfection of divine truth, becoming happier in the joy of unconditional love."

If you love your wife unconditionally you will want whatever is best for her and you will always give her the freedom to seek out the things that really give her happiness. You will let her learn things for herself and explore situations and experiences that she feels will make her happy, even if you think that you know what is best for her. Although she may make bad choices and do things that are wrong you will always be there for her and never judge her if you truly love her unconditionally.

Can you see room for improvement in your relationship? Do you place restrictions and limitations on your wife?

When you truly love someone unconditionally, you place their needs and their happiness above everything else, including yourself. Remember, just because you love someone in this way it does not mean that they will return their love to you in the same way. Are you ready to love unconditionally?

God Bless - and may He keep you and your family safely under His wings. -
The Dove Alliance