"Serving God's Word On Saving Your Marriage"

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"I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know Him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which He has called you, the riches of His glorious inheritance in the saints, and His incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength..." (Ephesians 1:17-19)

"That He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might through His Spirit in the inner man, that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height - to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God" (Eph 3:16-19)

When God created woman from Adam's rib - God knew exactly what He was doing. Even though woman is from man's flesh and bone; she is totally different from man on EVERY level of woman's life. And I am speaking of the spirit, and of the heart. She is unto as "the weaker vessel" of strength only. But when it comes to the spirit and the heart; woman is much stronger than man. Woman can endure much pain - physically and emotionally - more so than man. And her discernment is much higher and valued greater than man. This is not to say she lacks pride and ego such as man because she does. But in her discernment - her value is justified.

In God's endearment - He places value upon woman as His Rose; as His Diamond. Even though she is equal to man; God had placed virtues upon a woman's heart to be as she was created to be - and that is man's helper. If man listens to his woman he would gain more value upon himself then he could ever possibly realize. Throughout the Bible God speaks of woman's virtue and here is a list of those virtues:

Peace - she is very harmonious.

Patience - with a good-natured tolerance of delay.

Kindness - with a quality of being warm-hearted and considerate and humane and sympathetic.

Goodness - with a high moral excellence, which makes her good, valuable and useful.

Faithfulness - of great quality of being faithful, loyal, true, constant, fast, steadfast, and staunch.

Gentleness - with mildness of manners and disposition.

Self-Control - and this is the act of her denying herself; controlling her impulses.

Hopefulness - always having a happy anticipation of something good.

Forgiveness - have that compassionate feelings that support a willingness to forgive.

Selflessness - have that quality of unselfish concern for the welfare of others.

Fairness - seeks the best, just, equable solution, even if it hurts her.

Grace - have a disposition to kindness and compassion; The free and unmerited favor or beneficence of God.

Mercy - show great kindness toward the distressed.

Compassion - have a deep awareness of and sympathy for another's suffering.

Empathy - identification with and understanding of another's situation, feelings, and motives.

Wisdom - have the quality of being prudent and sensible, the trait of utilizing knowledge and experience with common sense and insight.

UUnderstanding - have the capacity for rational thought and understanding based on comprehension, discernment and empathy.

Discernment - have the perception of that which is obscure, the trait of judging wisely and objectively.

Encouragement - have a great sense of giving hope and support to someone, that inspires confidence and a will to continue.

Faith - which is her belief and trust in and loyalty to God.

Caring - is her feeling and exhibiting concern and empathy for others, a loving feeling, having and displaying warmth and affection.

Generosity - have this trait of being willing to give her money or her time.

Humility - have very a humble view of one's own importance and disposition to be humble; a lack of false pride.

Honesty - have a great quality of being honest, fairness and straightforwardness and transparency.

Sincerity - have the quality of being open and truthful; not deceitful or hypocritical.

Integrity - she is very firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values, incorruptibility, an unimpaired condition, soundness, the quality or state of being complete or undivided.

Respect - have an attitude of admiration or esteem, show respect towards, a courteous expression (by word or deed) of esteem and regard.

Consideration - have the process of giving careful thought to something, kind and considerate regard for others, a considerate and thoughtful act.

Impartiality - have the quality of being impartial; freedom from bias or favoritism; disinterestedness; equitableness; fairness; as, impartiality of judgment, of treatment.

Gratitude - have a feeling of thankfulness and appreciation and the state of being grateful.

Contentment - have a feeling of calm satisfaction, the quality of being contented with a circumstance, or a feature or characteristic of something that gives rise to satisfaction.

Acceptance - have the humility of taking something that is offered, a disposition to tolerate or accept people and situations.

Helpfulness - have the property of providing useful assistance, friendliness evidence by a kindly and helpful disposition.

Friendliness - always showing kindly interest and goodwill to another, a friendly disposition, a feeling of liking for another person; enjoyment in their company.

Modesty - have the freedom from vanity or conceit.

Honor - show respect towards others and the quality of being honorable and having a good name.

Purity - she is in the state of being free from sin or moral wrong; lacking a knowledge of evil. Being undiluted and unmixed with extraneous material.

Righteousness - always adhering to moral principles, morally right or justifiable, acting in accord with divine and moral law.

Sacrifice - have the capability of surrendering of something for the sake of the Gospel or someone else.

Loyalty - unblemished of binding herself, intellectually or emotionally, to a course of action and people.

Hospitality - her heart is always in kindness in welcoming guests or strangers.

Courtesy - always courteous or respectful and considerate.

Cooperation - have the capacity of joint operation or action, common effort, association of persons for common benefit.

Service - have an act of help or assistance, work done by one person or group that benefits others.

Guidance - is a leader of guiding and showing the way.

Perseverance - have an persistent determination.

Endurance - have the quality, or power of withstanding hardship and stress.

Courage - have the spirit that enables her to face danger of pain without showing fear. Persistence plus fear equals courage.

Diligence - have persevering determination to perform a task, conscientiousness in paying proper attention to a task; giving the degree of care required in a given situation.

Meekness - have a disposition to be patient and long suffering and the feeling of patient submissive, humbleness.

Purposefulness - have the quality of having a definite purpose and full of meaning; significant.

Foresight - have the perception of the significance and nature of events before they have occurred.

Intuition - can immediate apprehension or cognition without reasoning or inferring, knowledge or conviction gained by intuition, the power or faculty of gaining direct knowledge or cognition without evident rational thought and inference.

Optimism - have a general disposition to expect the best in all things, the optimistic feeling that all is going to turn out well.

Potential - have the inherent ability or capacity for growth, development, and coming into being.

Orderliness - have a condition of regular and proper arrangement, the quality of appreciating method and system.

Unity - have the quality of being united into one, an unreduced or unbroken completeness and totality.

Reverence - have a reverent mental attitude, honor, respect, felt or shown, profound adoring awed respect and consider exalted and to be in awe of.

Steadfastness - loyalty in the face of trouble and difficulty, steadfast resolution, firm in belief, determination and adherence.

Obedience - have the act of obeying God; dutiful or submissive behavior with respect to another.

Devotion - have the commitment to some purpose, feelings of ardent love, willingness to serve God.

Reliability - have the trait of being dependable and reliable, someone that is reliable can be trusted or believed because they work and behave well in the way she expect.

Assertiveness - aggressive self-assurance; given to making bold assertions, disposed to and characterized by confident assertion.

Tolerance - ability to put up with harsh or difficult conditions, the act of putting up with somebody or something irritating or otherwise unpleasant.

Responsibility - trustworthiness; the trait of being answerable to someone for something or being responsible for one's conduct.

Trustworthiness - trait of deserving trust and confidence, dependable, deserving of trust, or able to be trusted.

Moderation - have the quality of being moderate and avoiding extremes, the trait of avoiding excesses, the action of lessening in severity or intensity.

Flexibility - quality of being adaptable or variable, characterized by a ready capability to adapt to new, different, or changing requirements.

Tactful - having or showing a sense of what is fitting and considerate in dealing with others. Showing skill and sensitivity in dealing with people.

Enthusiasm - have a great feeling of excitement, passionate interest in or eagerness to do something.

Creativity - have the ability to use the imagination to develop new and original ideas or things, especially in an artistic context.

Commitment - have the ability of binding herself, intellectually or emotionally, to a course of action, the trait of sincere and steadfast fixity of purpose.

Excellence - have the quality of excelling; possessing good qualities in high degree.

Godliness - a careful observance of, and conformity to, the laws of God.

After reading these virtues - stop and think about your wife... I would almost guarantee your wife possesses most - if not all of these virtues.... Now look at yourself and count the ways. How many of these virtues do you have living in your heart????

I pray you are now beginning to see the bigger picture concerning your wife; her heart; and her spirit.

When was the last time you ever wrote your wife a love letter - or have you ever? When was the last time you partaken on a journey with your wife - such as making a list of things you have not ever done with her? Here is a list to begin with and in your own heart - add to it in your heart's content:
  • Be her best and greatest friend.
  • Get caught with her in the rain.
  • Dance with her in the rain.
  • Stargaze on a clear night.
  • Watch the sunset together.
  • Moonlit walks on the beach.
  • Go on a carriage ride through the park.
  • Do a crossword together.
  • Go for a twilight horseback ride.
  • Eat ice cream with her out of the same dish.
  • Go to a museum together.
  • Talk to each other using only body language.
  • Give her space when she needs it.
  • Accept her totally and completely.
  • Carve your names into a tree/table.
  • Go for a walk at dusk together.
  • Be one with her in the spirit.
  • Send her a singing telegram.
  • Gently run your hand across her cheek and look into her eyes and say all the great things about her.
  • Blindfold her and take her somewhere romantic.
  • Feel your heartbeat as she experience complete joy.
  • Go roller/ice skating together.
  • Go hiking/camping together.
  • Laugh at someone together.
  • Share a plate of spaghetti.
  • Give her a stuffed animal just because.
  • Go on a fun vacation and bring back the kind of memories movies are made of.
  • Go on a road trip across America and/or Canada.
  • Count thunder together during a thunderstorm.
  • Envelop her in your soul.
  • Cook her favorite meal/meals.
  • Know her better than you know yourself.
  • Go to a Renaissance Fair.
  • Plant a tree together.
  • Look over at her during a party and have her know without you saying a word of what you are thinking or feeling.
  • Hold her when she is at her saddest and comfort her when she needs it the most.
  • Be the one she comes to for that comfort and holding.
  • Wipe away the days' stresses and issues, with just one hug/kiss.
  • Write a Prayer together and say it every day, together.
  • Hold her hand as you both walk any where in public.
  • Hold her hand for no reason at all.
  • Hold her deeply in your arms and kiss the tears from her eyes.
A marriage is the most difficult relationship known to man or woman. It is a work in process from your wedding day until our Lord brings you home. And if there is anything in you want to save your marriage; then the time is now to begin rebuilding. To know woman (your wife) is something you must seek our Lord in guidance to help you with. You cannot do it with your own understanding without our Lord Jesus and there is no question about it. You have to build an intimacy with God before you can build one with your wife. You have to trust God with all your soul; with all your mind; with all your heart; and with all your might. Ask our Lord to help you and believe me - He will help you. But you first must have the desire in doing so.

Unfold the memories of your relationship with your wife from the first moment you laid your eyes upon her. Bring back the memories of your feelings then and during the whole process of you courting your future wife at the time. Contemplate every moment of time you was with her, and without her, and remember the deep and compassionate love along with the emotions you had for her.... If you know it or not - they are still alive in your heart and all you need to do is remember.... The greatest gift you could give to your wife is the honor and respect, in which she deserves; accordingly on how God had "wired" her to be. In doing so - you will sow a seed that will harvest beyond your imagination.

God's Love From Genesis Through The Revelation.

I restore your past and as a result your present and future are affected. I fill your present with hope and your future unfolds as you abide in intimacy with Me and My Word in the here and now. My desires and dreams for your future abide in Me and I abide in You. Your future is in you and speaks to you through My Word, My still small voice and through those I bring into your life. You see your future is contained within the depths and recesses of your spirit where I am.

I am the Alpha and the Omega. I am the beginning - the end and all in between (Revelation 22:13; Revelation 1:8). I was there before you ever were and knew you. I knew your past, present and future before there was a twinkle in your daddy's eye. I am your future.

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